I made the decision not to have those things when I married a non-member. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also. Don't fall in love with a doctor. However, that doesn't mean I am in a situation where I can call or text or anything. Does it mostly depend on his specialty or just how he prioritizes things.
Mormons are very particular about dressing. Marriage to the wrong person is extremely difficult. Its great to hear advice from those who know. I grew up believing that when, where, and by what authority I was married were equally important to whom I married.
He is just very dedicated to his patients. An important is doing this together. They even refrain from tea and coffee. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints teaches that all sexual relationships outside of marriage defined as the legal union between a man and a woman are sinful. Find out what your partner thinks of as non-negotiable.
You are expecting him to be like your exes and you want him to be the one to chase you. Her experience may or may not be typical, but it is something to consider. When mormon married a mormon and failed miserably. But my relationship with him is worth this small sacrifice. And unless they are total cretins your ward members will love him too. I entertained without him, but with frequent phone calls, lol.