Then, do any of the above morsels of advice matter. He has cheated on me and promises he won't do it anymore. I wanted so badly to marry a guy who had recently left the church.
He totally blew me off and said "blah blah blah" and it was so early in our relationship that I was taken aback and didn't push the issue then and there. He does not place the marriage above it. Only idiots are unfriendly to non-Mormon spouses.
Heavenly Father will give you guidance if you listen with an open heart and contrite spirit as always. It is an act of faith. When I was 19, my boyfriend considered himself an atheist. They will teach the boys that masturbation is evil, which will cause most boys to lie about it and feel deep shame and guilt. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. That's just too high a price to pay. With that same attitude they will rise up on the other side of the veil. Sometimes I think I'II get crazy or dipressed. If your spouse believes in infant baptism, will you allow the children to have that. Will he possible convert just to make you happy without really buying into it.
Mormons love to have fun, but they prefer keeping it clean, respectful, and something that everyone can enjoy. In the end, God is a just God. Every bishop, new set of missionaries, home teacher, etc. You have to make the decision as to what you want your home and your children to have in that home. He sees all families being able to stay together. It was not just frustrating but also saddening and stressful. I wish I could let go of our love as easily as he has, but I just can't. It was not just frustrating but also saddening and stressful.