I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. I have been married to a doc for 31 years and just found out about an "emotional affair" that went on for 15 years she is a nurse. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. By the end of the first date with my husband I knew I wanted him to be a part of my life. And unless they are total cretins your ward members will love him too. Can someone put some sense in me. Keep me posted, please. I am just short of living in a shelter because he has all of his pay going into a separate account for just him now and he has given access tot he account to his mistress. Although it may indeed be a good idea to get out of this one, we all need to keep in mind that the situation is more complex than that. Besides the obvious brain damage that you will be made to suffer your entire married life, there are future kids to think about.
On the other hand, if you believe God is bigger than we can imagine, and is not constrained by religious dogma, you have as good a chance as any at a happy, thriving relationship. She will try to convert you. Also, we haven't practiced polygamy for over years. Stick around on this sub. I grew up believing that when, where, and by what authority I was married were equally important to whom I married. Though my mother never openly complained about this, I could see it in her eyes. It will definitely take patience to work through any of this with her but it sounds like she's a pretty awesome person. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. It is positively shocking.
It all depends on the girl. He started to reflect on how he had become accustomed to missing the day to day moments but these were the big ones that were now being pushed behind his work in priorities. The church can be a very cruel place for single people. All faiths have vocabulary unique to them. They don't have control so they easily a Fall prey to other doctors and nurses etc. It would behoove you in this situation to act like a kid yourself. I wouldn't just start bringing up the ces letter and the problems in it.
This is how I felt when I married my exmo husband. We had a long distant relationship for 3 years. I wanted to thank all the respondents and the blog author for sharing. Her brain has been wired from birth by said cult.