The brethren have taught that there is an ideal pattern for marriage. But, you will probably lose. I'm not marrying to be a single, working mom with money. I knew that I couldn't possibly be alone. The two of us are going on an overnight this weekend. I am very active with my work, social life, and activities and independent. The gold is in the footnotes and sources linked from those new essays. Thank you for your sacrifice.
That conversation prompted me to find and read through this sub, and there's some seriously disturbing shit here. Oh well, I'll just pretend she's not mormon and see what happens. The point to this story is that when he had any free time he wanted to spend it with me. Good luck to you and your boyfriend. I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree. Now I feel like a stepford wife.
I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. We visit when he has a rotation that gives him weekends off, and compromise sleep and fun. We were planning on doing it on memorial day weekend so we could get married on a sunday between graduation and residency but that is a Jewish holiday.
Find some small proxy act of affection that can be done regularly to say that he cares about you, and that can be kept sacred as a stand-in for everything else that's missed. You'll know pretty quick where she stands. Anyone who's a decent human being should be able to know right from wrong and act accordingly. I'm so sorry to hear this. This post and the comments are an eye opener. I'd suggest the essays.