My wife chose me, but most people aren't so lucky. I keep busy with my own activities, but it becomes really hard to have a date night. I agree with Rachel- this is not what I signed up for. I know residency is particularly bad, but what about when he finishes that.
Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. It sounds like you have found a good one. You sound like a wonderful person. Disney gives them the fantasy where they can easily achieve a standard of perfection with low risk. I love my non-member husband of nearly 20 years. I am his wife and we have 4 children. Sooo, I guess my question is Did I dodge a bullet or do new residents go crazy, but eventually come back to their senses.
I know that time spent together even when we're both just sleeping is valuable. He doesn't like to complain or talk about work too much when we're together so it really helps to hear from another resident just how crazy it is. We can also save our errant children by our valiancy too.
If you do not have a lot of time together, make every second count. This always seemed terribly wrong to me. We can talk about everything, but I don't want him to feel as if he is under the microscope. What a fascinating response as always. The two of you can get married in the temple and live together forever for eternity.