He could come home from trips and I was too worn out to fake the good cheer. I actually had one of my friends say to me, " why are you worried about what he is doing when you aren't there he spends hundreds of dollars on you when you are there who cares that he hasn't texted you". You see, I am the guy, and she is the established doctor dermatologist.
So I guess, in this case, all's well that Thanks for posting the update. I think doctors have a different perspective of death and loss, because they deal with it so much. I had this issue with my husband and I had to straight out tell him what I needed because he had no clue. You will have to convert and betray your ideals to keep the relationship alive. Every new set in our ward looks at him as fresh meat. Do some research of your own as well, so that you know a little more about the person you are dating. Mormons defintely play by a different rule set. One red flag I have for Mormon girls is if they drink coffee. I don't want to advocate manipulation but asking questions concerning Joseph's dishonesty about polygamy to his first wife and his marriage of other men's wives and marriage of a 14 year old may prove more fruitful than just saying wow polygamy is messed up.
LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. Life After Mormonism Chat. Communication is crucial, and even if we don't see each other for several days at a time, it's important to be on the same page. He may never come out and say it, but if you mention marriage outside of the church and he's OK with it, you have a slight chance of being happily married to her and not being mormon. I have no sympathy for people like you. I hate that it's all on his terms. I'm not marrying to be a single, working mom with money. I miss my husband dearly. Put your best foot forward; be soft-spoken, courteous, well-mannered, chivalrous, and respectful. Your opportunities may not.
If you want to date a Mormon guy or girl, then the best way to meet singles is by visiting the Church. The church will be in your bedroom, finances, and all your decisions. If all you are looking for is some non-serious dates to have a good time, you should be fine. Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. As I grew and became confident, I learned how to deal with social awkwardness. If he's too tired from work to go to a party that we both wanted to go to, then I'm cool with staying in since I just enjoy his company and am happy to finally be seeing him. He is just very dedicated to his patients.