And the fact that he didn't respond for two days was confirmation for myself that I did the right thing. I remember when I had my first son via C-section, our families came to the hospital with Champagne and celebrated, not even one asked about my surgery…. It MAY be true that she will not marry him unless he converts. Before I would just take things as they came, internalize them, be miserable about it but not voice my concern in fear of being told that I can't handle his lifestyle. Even if she does, you'll be the reason in her family's eyes. And the thought of being a 'single mom' if we have kids.
Without going into too much personal detail, I received a very real, strong prompting that I should marry this girl. I'm in the exact same pulling-out-my-hair situation that you are. Please wait a few minutes and refresh this page. I think patience and understanding is also important. Buy them a bus ticket with a note and an address. I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true.
But my son will be 14 then and I will feel that I've already done the work of raising a child. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. I've been in a similar situation before. I do not have the answer в but I keep trying to figure it out. Although with the change in times, people may not follow these rules as stringently as before, it is still better to be careful so as to not offend anyone, and you may possibly land up with the love of your life. But equally, does this mean you will have to sanction what you do, say and watch regarding Mormonism. I had many, many friends who moved this quickly during courtship, too. If we have children, they will be OK to go to your church, but not compelled to do so, and never baptized.
Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl. They may need much more than casual contact with the church to see the truth in it. There is the possibility that she will wise up over time, but not likely. My family says I should leave him….