Now look at the flip side в if he loves you, and realizes you fully believe, how will he deal with the importance of the temple to you. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also. And don't fall for all their talk of being open and welcoming. We talked about getting married early in our relationship since we had known each other forever. I hope he wised up. It sounds like you have found a good one.
This is tough enough when the kids are babies, but when they're older - teenagers - you'll get to tackle all of the hormone-fueled angst, drama, school difficulties, homework, school activities, and be the scapegoat when the kids get mad at you. I am not quite a spouse of a doctor. I'm so glad you mentioned some of the things that I have been suggesting to my boyfriend for some time, but he has been skeptical about. I have dated all walks of TBM women TBM women are closet freaks. If I'm focused on something like reading a textbook, or working on some problem then I might still think of him vaguely but I'm not going to whip out my phone or go and see himI'm busy.
There will, in fact, still be churches besides our own. Would love to join. Keep your options open. Don't tiptoe around the issue. Someone already said it, but unless you are planning on converting, this is a dead end relationship. If you are willing to wait, then well and good; otherwise, it is best to move on. Sometimes I complain to my kids and to my husband. So if you are caffeine junky, be sure that you can adjust to and accept your date's beliefs before going on a date. Please realize I know how the church works, was extremely active and raised good kids.
One of the most well known church prophets stated that he would rather see his own child dead in their coffin than married outside the temple. This lack of inclusion within the general society makes them socially awkward, especially around men. Do what feels right. I know "Meet the Mormons" isn't what I'm looking for I went through a very similar experience earlier this year and the community was extremely helpful. God will help you both work this out.