So you stay calm, stay pleasant, and try not to let it eat you alive. Now, lest you look at this all and say, "sheesh, go to counseling. I'm sorry you may be hearing a lot of negativity from us. In truth if I had a chance to "do it all again" type of thing. Do you really love him, honey.
Love Notes for Him. I don't really care if she's religious or not, unless she brings it up all the time or tries to convert me. Like, she thought that serving would remedy her of any doubts or testimony issues. A good doctor must be willing to sacrifice his own needs for the good of his patient and as his wife, you sacrifice as well. We also struggle with infertility. Sunday is considered sacred by Mormons, and they do not undertake any entertaining or outdoor activities that result in spending, on that day. I think love and caring can be more important. You won't know this until you do it and that is really important information to get before a marriage contract. If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you.
When I taught GD we discussd the lessons. Getting things done, solve every problems, started my day with long a to-do list daily. The thing is I didn't want to marry someone who I'd never see or spend time with. He doesn't realize that when he spends so much time at the hospital they take this as a sign that he has no home life. As a Christian one's values won't allow an affair on the lonely spouse' part either - but that probably won't bug you by the sounds of it. Happy hour is out of the question. But I do believe in modern prophets and that God gives no commandment that is not for our own happiness.
But realistically, if she is not open minded enough to even listen to someone who has a contrasting view of the church - how will she not continually discount you and your lack of beliefs. If she identifies as a Mormon, then she probably takes her faith seriously, and it means a lot to her. I feel as if I am a single parent. They are always dressed in decent clothing, and the same is expected of their date. Why Mormons are not sexist. I've been doing it wrong. But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. Maybe he thinks it wouldn't be a bad idea to cheat - these women understand him. My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine.