Thank you for this blog. My mom always said the more you have, the more it owns you, so true. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. Your girlfriend might, or maybe IS, going through this.
I would love to someday find myself sitting in the pew with you, sharing this amazing journey. You are a good person. She is considered "an old maid" by Mormon standards, so she may be willing to marry you--hoping you will convert someday --but she will constantly be reminded that your marriage is inferior to the "Eternal Families" of sealed Mormons, and she will fear dying and never seeing her loved ones again. There will always be difference between spouses. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature. If they are, run to the altar, in or out of the temple. I was recently married to my husband in the Twin Falls, Idaho temple for time and all eternity. For every lesson and sermon preached about loving everyone, there are one or two lessons on avoiding outsiders because they will destroy your eternity. So that's something I can't say is good or bad. But now, in addition to being a primary spouse, I'm also the primary parent.
I'm dating a lovely guy who is in his first year of medical residency. I love my non-member husband of nearly 20 years. This has been a good distraction when she's doing awkward shifts but coordinating time together can be difficult. I guess I can understand that because his door needs to be locked from the outside and it would be too soon in our relationship to give me a key.
I feel as if I am a single parent. We make time for each other every chance we get which sometimes is during the noon hour for lunch. March 19, And congratulations, "lovableluciferian" for walking away from the precipice of an untenable relationship. Please share your dating experience with a doctor or a medical resident. Finally, it is a very tight-knit community and despite efforts to insulate you from conversion-minded missionaries, you will be exposed to a lot of people that think, like this woman does, that atheists are without a moral compass. Racial differences can be very trivialвthey really didn't come up much for my parents, for exampleвand are basically false differences. Sounds like classic "flirt to convert. I wish I could reach out to this girl and tell her not to pass up an awesome guy. She has opened my eyes to many parts of our national culture that are not in harmony with righteousness.