This does not mean that you cannot do those things, but remember that she will not be able to do them with you. She was expecting me to break up with her, like all previous guys she's been into have done. I really wish that I can figure out how to balance the demands of his family and our life together and make everyone happy - I think it is going to be a long road ahead, especially considering that his practice is local to our families.
She still lives in her hometown though. The point is that he should ASK her if this is true for her. My husband is midway throug his first year of cardiology fellowship and we have been having a tough time lately. Your mids is still young. I maintain my own life and embrace my SO with open arms when I do see him, which comes to about once a week usually dinner after 8: I get up with him at 4 A.
In her obviously orthodox Mormon paradigm dad's a bishop, she went to BYU and on a missionunderstand that she believes her husband must be an orthodox Mormon and get married to her in the temple. Before I would just take things as they came, internalize them, be miserable about it but not voice my concern in fear of being told that I can't handle his lifestyle. To Anonymous, Your comment also left me heartbroken. Also, don't forget, some people just arent very good at conveying emotions. I think you are all lucky to have such successful husbands, and I think in any marriage it is important to keep your own identity especially when you have children.
He's a devoted father and every ounce of free time goes to his kids. God be with you all. If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. Here's my advice though: It doesn't sound like you want that though, so you're going to have to talk to him. Racial differences can be very trivialвthey really didn't come up much for my parents, for exampleвand are basically false differences.