I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. Usually, when Mormon girls marry non-Mormon men, these women forsake their religion and revert to ordinary American woman. Is it naive to think we could raise our children to fully participate in two different faiths. If she won't reason with your investigation of the church, nope on out and go on your merry way. If you want him - he is part of a medical school package right now, and likely will be for some time to come. Make arrangements to send her to your cousins town and let your cousin know she will be visiting. At the risk of overloading this post, I'm going to copy and paste here, a Reddit comment that I made in this exmo sub the other day.
Good luck to you and your boyfriend. With that being said, I have long considered myself just a tad outside super TBM since we watched Game of Thrones, drank energy drinks, and occasionally stayed in my running clothes sans garments to do yard work. And that my friend, is just a hint of the extent of the brain wash that Mormons experience.
The fact that your guy came right out and said he didn't care what you thought and that we was going to spend his money and time the way he wanted indicates that he still thinks of himself as single. About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church. However, I believe there are rules set, and we receive certain blessings when we obey said rules. We have been together for over ten years, but only married for 6 months. If you decide to marry this man, you both will find a way to be happy and have a wonderful marriage, not that perfect that we see in the Sundays at Church. You are looking for evidence that a.
If we truly love someone, we have to make sacrifices. I think one has to become somewhat vulnerable and broken to truly experience the best side of happy- and he will not, and can not allow that to happen. Marriage to the right person is wonderful. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. I get to spend my life with someone who was not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender roles. What a miserable state. You can't reason with fanatics, and you got one. We have been together for over ten years, but only married for 6 months. Learned by me in time and tears.