In many ways, she was everything that I ever wanted in a spouse, but in other ways she was not what I ever expected. You can and should share with her why you don't and never will believe in the Mormon church, and let her decide for herself, but be prepared to have that blow up in your face. Not unless she thinks she can convert you. It started making me feel very nervous and apprehensive at the thought of having a family, and having all of his time be consumed by his work. I have no idea if he stayed. If you remain active, Church service is very demanding of our lives в not a Sunday thing. To me, life is all about growthвso ask yourselfвwill I grow more staying single and focusing my life on the church, or will I grow more branching out, looking at life from different perspectives, and allowing myself to see options I have not yet considered. That isn't fair on you, and again will create stress and a stress point in the relationship. Once his residency is over, you'll have more time together, but that's going to be a while from now. I'm a single, financially independent woman.
Several of the apostles have grown up in part member homes. But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. The important thing is whether or not your spouse will support you in your endevours to live your religion. His hospital "family" protected this information well, silently acquiescing and even approving his behavior. As a physician buckling under the stress, my assigned counsellor who is also a church minister told me: So, what do I do with that. What am I getting myself into.
Since moving and starting residency, he has done a complete - no resemblance to the man I fell in love with. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal companion" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity. Make them feel special. If we can say them together, great; if not.
We are here looking for the other people who live this life and understand how difficult and, at times, painful this career is with which to live since the majority of people think like you until they see our families in action. It doesn't get better. Every bishop, new set of missionaries, home teacher, etc. She won't marry you. And a YW leader feels soory for my daughter who is growing up in a home without the priesthood.