Sorry if I gave that impression. I am willing to add his religious observances to our worship as a couple and as a family, but should I also be willing to give up some of my participation in my own faith в for example by attending the temple or Sunday services slightly less often in order to spend more time as an entire family. I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. In the long run, being married to a nonmember has made me a better person. Thank you for this site. But I do believe in modern prophets and that God gives no commandment that is not for our own happiness. Can you live your whole life with a husband you doesnt or never will believe in the mormon church.
Expect that you will do the majority of parenting and attend school functions alone. A friend of ours who is going to grad school at Duke started complaining to me about how he had to work while Dr. None felt right, ever. He can relate to me and we can relate to each other which makes us strong to begin with.
I have had more than one girl, who I had definite chemsitry with, who the girl really liked me and we had deep and intense conversations as well as a real physichal connection to. Mormons are one of the few remaining groups with healthy women. This is wonderful and in accordance with the desires of a loving Father in Heaven, but it can turn a marriage on its ear, if the spouse is unprepared. It does not come from common religion or personality or even values; it only comes through mutual self transcendence. My dream in life as cliche as it sounds is to be happy, and to raise a family - be one of those home mums who goes to school meetings, and award nights, and bakes cakes for their kids school fares. All the other stuffв is crap. I'm sorry you may be hearing a lot of negativity from us.
One small thing to add here. You and your fiancee might want to get in touch with one to work out the day-to-day issues of an interfaith marriage. It is hard work. You will always be 2nd. In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. I read through a few of the LDS. I'm sorry this was so longwinded and not really an answer to your questions.