My husband is a medical oncologist who deals primarily with ovarian cancer. That sentence strikes me as rather bizarre--it seems to be alluding to a causal link between academics and being "emotionally immature," as you put it. It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. It also seems like he's into it based on how he acts around me and the things he says. Consider also the evolving perspective of the potential husband. You should expect that this will define your relationship with her.
I cooked every meal…… My husband went to work…being a god to his patients. He told me that there is nothing in the world that is more gratifying. There are all kinds of Mormons, and we as exmormons should know better than to stereotype our former selves. I know that she's even getting her stuff ready to go on her mission. The closet is deep though I think that's seriously generalizing.
This is tough enough when the kids are babies, but when they're older - teenagers - you'll get to tackle all of the hormone-fueled angst, drama, school difficulties, homework, school activities, and be the scapegoat when the kids get mad at you. He's currently doing emergency medicine and about to start residency. Thanks for sharing your story. As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. We have a strong relationship, so I am lucky - but lately the demands of family are becoming a bit too much to handle - and I really don't know how to 'deal' with my inlaws and 'sharing' my husband with them.
I have been married to a doctor for 29 years now and think I have felt or experienced many of the worries expressed. Please realize I know how the church works, was extremely active and raised good kids. And his wife is angry and unappreciative and has no idea how difficult his profession is. I'm afraid he's going to be more in love with work than me and a family. Marriage is hard, period. Needless to say, his top choices were not near my family and friends. Your comment is SO spot on in my experience. If you both comfortable having different faiths, your relationship can still be rewarding and fulfilling. I just pray that we can make it through the next 3 years.