I don't think anyone here intended a dismissal of the girl as a human being by stating such. Meanwhile, he'll be adored and revered and flirted with by divorced nurses who would jump in the sack with him at a moment's notice. I had many, many friends who moved this quickly during courtship, too. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains.
This girl is also a real person, not a caricature of a cult member, and even if the ultimate result is a breakup, she deserves to be treated with compassion and respect. After deep soul searching, I decided to stop working and be a stay at home mom. You will be expected to condone but not attend events in the temple to which you will not be granted access. Life is not perfect. However, and this might sound sad. He is dealing with the aftermath of a failed suicide while I spend my time trying to keep busy at home. This is such a misinformed statement.
Propagandists in the media throw around the word patriarchy as if it is synonymous with anything male. If you do attend parties like that, expect her to drink 7-Up and volunteer as the designated driver, and to be completely repulsed if you drink too much. I was going to be alone in the marrige working hard and planning for the two of us whiles my wife's emotions and energy was spent on other people. Already answered Not a question Bad question Other. There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them. I wouldn't just give up, but be wary.
It is difficult to learn to have no expectations towards him, even though our mindset towards medicine is the same. Don't forget too that IF you are successful in turning the lights on and deconverting her, the family would resent you the rest of their lives. Does she understand that for a long-term relationship to succeed that the partners must treat each other as equals. For whatever reason, none of them ever seemed that interested in me I freely admit this could have been cluelessness on my partand so never turned serious.