The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. It's why TBMs are so bugged by people that leave the church. They therefore have a high standard to work toward. And they manage to get the time for it. The common theme here form the complaining spouses is that few of them seem to have their own lives. Finally, the decision of whom you marry is really between you and God. Over the years, it would have felt increasingly burdensome to accommodate practices that seemed to me like superstition. I grew away from mine as my husband then-boyfriend slowly grew closer to his Mormon faith. I love my non-member husband of nearly 20 years.
It's simply sometimes hard to accept that while he is your number one priority, you probably never will be. I will keep reading, but it looks like most of the stuff about racism and polygamy has been "adequately" explained away by updates to LDS. Religious differences, however are real. Anyway, before you marry you should work out anything hypothetical that might come up in the future.
Since a very young age, these girls have gazed at handsome paintings of Jesus and prophets, and learned to respect men who have spiritual confidence in their eyes. But it would not change my love for that person. I chose to get married and move across the state to live with my husband and left my job, family and friends and let me tell you, it's been tremendously difficult to meet new friends in the new town. I adore the show New Normal and one of my favorite episodes is when Bryan decides to go back to church and the Father is so cool with him. It hasn't been easy for me to create a regular social life that involves me missing a husband.
It requires a special kind of patience, and I think that the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" has to be something you can relate to. Mormonism is a religion that's as manipulative as it is comforting. I got to thinking about how I and others in my ward might react if a same sex couple attended church and how those views might WILL, fingers crossed change over the next decade. If this is someone you are to marry, then the rest will take care of itself. You are a good person. Once when I saw how hurt my children had become due to his lack of interaction with them. I don't think I could let that happen. You can and should share with her why you don't and never will believe in the Mormon church, and let her decide for herself, but be prepared to have that blow up in your face.