Racial differences can be very trivialвthey really didn't come up much for my parents, for exampleвand are basically false differences. My seminary teacher went off on me about dating a non Mormon when I was talking about going to his prom. Last year i met a wonderful neurosurgeon and within 6 months he told me he was in love with me. Where does that leave me. We agree on honesty and kindness, it doesn't matter what inspires us to pursue that. Keep the relationship casual. Yes; I suppose if each of us believe the other is brainwashed, there's going to be major problems later on. You should ask Him what you should do, as no one else can see the end from the beginning and no one else has perfect love for you and for your potential husband. I am so glad I found this blog.
Hi I think you are all lucky to marry a Doctor. The only thing I can say is good luck to all. I'd at least insist that at 12 the kids can choose to disaffiliate. At the end of the day, nothing I say or do can help him see this. It will help to come in armed with everything I'm learning from the different perspectives on here though. These are nice people. But if your faith is a key part of your life, this is huge. Mormon theology is pretty clear: But Mormon theology is also rich with opportunities for second chances. Most likely, the relationship isn't going to survive your differences in belief.
Initially I thought he would join the church and life would get back on the only track I knew. There are times where u rarely hear from him and then he contacts me. We have not been intimate in 6 weeks now. What do you think is a reasonable expectation for how much time you will spend together, how often you will talk, etc. Even after being in a relationship I have to take all the decision alone. If you marry him, you are committing to accepting him without the church and all that this entails. I am willing to add his religious observances to our worship as a couple and as a family, but should I also be willing to give up some of my participation in my own faith в for example by attending the temple or Sunday services slightly less often in order to spend more time as an entire family. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. He has always had a tremendous caseload and often grueling call schedule. I can't emphasize this strongly enough.
I too suffer the same problem. I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. I'm in the exact same pulling-out-my-hair situation that you are.