Luckily, this seems to work out. When we're together, everything is good. If you were the one who did the asking, it is simply chivalrous and gentlemanly for you to pay for dinner, the movie, or whatever else you do. But I'm wondering about one thing: Do I have cause to be scared out of my mind, or should I just take a chill pill. Many hour days and sometimes 10 days straight without a day off. It's like watching somone lose themselves in an abusive relationship. But that was also a possibility if he had married a non-mormon.
I get it - he's dedicated years of his life to his craft and he has one chance to roll the dice. Surgical intern year is much harder than I expected. I wanted that full support though I am certainly not saying that marrying a Mormon ensures that. Most of my female friends work and their husbands don't work weekends so it is hard to have people to hang with.
We have been together for almost 6 years, so I'm well aware of what I got into, but it can still be tough. Like many Docotors wives, Our husbands have a demanding career. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. It is very difficult being a Doctors wife.
Pretty alarming how unsophisticated so many presumably well-educated people's expectations are of marriage. The reality is that while God gave us a gospel of love and stands always ready to give us a helping hand, his mercy will not rob his justice. Take the missionary lessons, read the Book of Mormon and the Bible. I look forward to reading more. God will help you both work this out.