Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. I would do it all over again and thank my lucky stars that I found this man, that he loves, and that I love him. This was hugely disappointing for him and created some very tense times. Sometimes I feel burned out, but I have to carry on. I can pray for and with my youngest daughter and bless her thru prayer.
Pay for the first few dates. You can always expand these into group dates by inviting other couples along, which may make her more comfortable in the early stages of your relationship. You gals have my sympathy. I felt like I was 'on call' for when he would be available to see me. We are trying to conceive now, and I am contemplating if this was the right path for me. I am actually tired of the "excuse" that his work is so important or it's a calling. The Church encourages you to use dating as an opportunity to show your respect not just for others, but for yourself.
It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. My boyfriend and I moved in together when he started his fellowship last year. She was fine marrying in an LDS church instead of the temple, didn't want to convert me, and most importantly didn't try to change my beliefs or opinions. To sum up, they're incapable of loving anyone but themselves and the thought of a marriage counselor freaks them out as this would mean confronting their ultimate excuse of "I'm too busy".
It takes the right personality and commitment on both sides. Its not only adultry. He said that if there is an exception, it is for the individual to obtain through the spirit. The two of us are going on an overnight this weekend. Anyway, i know that this is not the experience of every surgical marriage but i guarantee most of them can relate in some way or another. Your spouse can be involved with anything that does not require a scheduled time.