This post and the comments are an eye opener. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. Thanks for springing that one on me OB. Yup, know how that feels. It time with him I value most. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. I am not one to be interest with his paycheck, since i am accountant myself. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things.
Play with fire if you don't fear getting burned. I can second this, as a lifelong utahn this is why I simply have a "no mormons" policy for dating. Some Mormon girls succumb to worldly laziness. Because you are a good person, you will recognize the influence of the Holy Ghost and know that the church is true. We have 2 beautiful children and he has a daughter from his previous mariage he rarely sees. He was not a prominent man in the church. I have been dating a doctor for over two years now and we have talked about marriage, as well as some of the challenges his job will entail.
But the issue of marrying a non-member raises two fundamental problems: That idea seems so contrary to the nature of God. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal companion" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity. Can you live your whole life with a husband you doesnt or never will believe in the mormon church. For now, again, don't expect a decade long relationship. It is hard for the others to understand my situation, people must just think that you don't need to worry about anything, but this is not the case. And Mormons were basically encouraged to marry other mormons. However, I believe there are rules set, and we receive certain blessings when we obey said rules. You;ll get the answer you needвprayers and blessings for you both. Dress nicely, as the girl will appreciate the effort put into looking good for her, and encourage her to do the same.
He ended up cheating with one of the nurses and his wife left him. A straight-laced, returned sister missionary, raised in the cult, and in family of similarly entrenched cult members, will not likely remain happy with a non-member. How am I certain. And as much as I love my boyfriend with my whole heart, I can see now that sadly maybe I might have to reconsider a life married to him. Did you know Joseph smith married the wives of other living men. She probably doesn't even realize how crazy that is. Through this, if you run into unforeseen issues like sold out movies or you cannot get a seat at a restaurant, you will always have a backup plan. Toxic is the right word. The Book of Abraham one admits it's not a translation.