I would say though that racial differences are NOT like religious differences, certainly not those between Mo and Nomo. They don't get easier, the demands of the hospital and patients will always come first. Attacking other posters is not allowed, but this forum recognizes the difference between a belief and the person holding to that belief. The religious differences between you two are a deal-breaking fault. Is he willing to, nay, interested. I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case. As the patriarchal leader, it will be up to you to figure it out and to dispel her unrealistic fantasies.
Consider a mix of activities that are inexpensive, and allow you to talk and learn about one another. I know that she's even getting her stuff ready to go on her mission. So basically we were lies to for years. She is showing a common attitude of distrust for "anti-mormon" material.
We have almost daily prayers, scripture reading, and lengthy discussions about our beliefs. Communication is crucial, and even if we don't see each other for several days at a time, it's important to be on the same page. I chose to move on. Like, she thought that serving would remedy her of any doubts or testimony issues. And as an outsider it will be obvious to you what's going on, but here's an awesome breakdown from a couple that flipped from "we go to church every week - we will write a Mormon blog" to resigning over the new policy banning children of gays all over the NY Times this month and something that is upsetting many staunch church members a few days ago. Attacking other posters is not allowed, but this forum recognizes the difference between a belief and the person holding to that belief. Best wishes to those struggling with these big, life-altering decisions.
But I am really in love with him, and see him as a wonderful man. I would also say that this is the most stressful point in their lives. We try to make this place a little better than we found it. Move on, but after thanksgiving.