He has always had a tremendous caseload and often grueling call schedule. Its great to hear advice from those who know. It's not fair to put words in her mouth and thoughts in her brain like this. As a docs wife we have to deal with all sorts, and prayer has often been my lifeline. They don't want to accept that someone can understand the doctrine and choose to reject it. It's all about timing, and you're in two different places. Let them see the good in you, and believe that their son or daughter has found a good match. You should also be willing to date other people. Sorry man, but if I knew what I know now I would have cut my losses. Seek advice, and like the chick said, talk and talk and talk untill its all sorted out in your mind, and in his.
By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort. But this phase isn't going to be short. In fact, you likely will meet a few. But, you will probably lose. They are just really convinced they are right. Wonderful memories made for both of us. I am dating a wonderful man, amazing. But the loneliness and the hours ER shifts are taken everything I had left in me.
The Church encourages you to use dating as an opportunity to show your respect not just for others, but for yourself. Good luck with her, and good life to you. It's like talking to a wall. However her husband joined the church a few years after their marriage.
If you can love them unconditionally with how they are now, then I say go for it. Follow your heart and live life with no regrets. If you decide to marry this man, you both will find a way to be happy and have a wonderful marriage, not that perfect that we see in the Sundays at Church. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. With that same attitude they will rise up on the other side of the veil. I cried when I showed the end of a rescue reenactment in my class last week. Mormon decried it was all a lie, an anti mormon lie. Now Knowing your husband is surrounded by good looking women, makes you pray for them even harder. I don't think we are going to end up being friends but I'll get over that.