WhatsApp pics and conversations just don't work. If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet. When he does, he is often quiet and exhausted. After dating a doctor for 5 years and finally realizing that what I'm dealing with is an excessive need for being put on a pedestal and adulation by mainly female colleagues of lower professional rank nurses I decided to move on. It will definitely take patience to work through any of this with her but it sounds like she's a pretty awesome person. This means that she will probably be dating others at the same time as you.
You are a good person. No easy answers here. Like, she thought that serving would remedy her of any doubts or testimony issues. There have been times in my marriage where I have been frustrated and angry by his lack of change. At 30, you just give up. We always went every Sunday, had family prayer and scripture reading, etc. I've already approached him like a million times to ask why he has been distant with me but now I'm realising it's his work load but he doesn't want to admit it's a lot for him.
He's emotionally threatening me to keep his infidelities a secret. I have had to compromise more often than I would have liked. As your future self, I say this with the utmost respect and admiration: Two peas in a pod. Forty plus years later I met my incredibly wonderful fabulous Mormon husband. Even though it sounds like she is very Mormon, I feel that this will help her. I married my husband 11 years ago, when he was an undergrad student. Am I dating a douchebag. He is doing 2nd year Residency.
The religious differences between you two are a deal-breaking fault. I'm so comforted by this thread. They will teach the girls that sex is bad and wrong, which is something they will have trouble putting behind them when they eventually do get married. We have still not decided about us, since it is at a very early stage. You can and should share with her why you don't and never will believe in the Mormon church, and let her decide for herself, but be prepared to have that blow up in your face. I'm a nevermo, but I married a then TBM girl, so maybe my perspective will be of help to you. She, her family, and her friends all believe that she can't get into the Celestial Kingdom VIP Heaven unless she is "sealed" to a Mormon husband.