In many ways, she was everything that I ever wanted in a spouse, but in other ways she was not what I ever expected. I tiptoed into my current relationship with a medical student dating two years, med school is almost overand one of the first things I brought up when he was pursuing me and he pursued me HARD was that I would not be the kind of person that would date a doctor. My husband had quite a late start in his career; he will be almost 40 by the time he starts residency so I feel we are already way behind in that sense, but also he has had a very hard time getting into residency as he went to med school outside the US. As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. You must either really love blue balls, or else she is not a real deal Mormon girl. As more and more people marry out of their faith, the subject of interfaith marriage will become more and more important. You have given me the courage to continue to protect my marriage and children. When missionaries come home, they are like top dog religious people. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you.
I went in thinking "oh, we can definitely do this. This means that she will probably be dating others at the same time as you. I could never do it. And depending on his views of the Sabbath, you will probably get the tug of war on Sundays. He's currently doing emergency medicine and about to start residency. So marrying a doctor might be ideal for me. I still struggle with the silence in contact or wanting to "rescue" him from the harried schedule.
He says he hasn't loved me for the last 2 years and was only staying for the sake of the kids. Additionally, just as corporate cultures exist, so does it exist for every family. And he is reading one of my favorite Buddhist-based books, in an effort to understand my beliefs. She might want to follow the 'virgin until marriage' part, or she may personally decide to forego following that in secret. He has let me be a stay-at-home mother while trying to launch my own business and has offered love and support every step of the way. Take a breath, stop and think, is it worth destroying so many lives so you can step in and take the rewards after someone else does the hard work. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. I don't know if I can do it or if I want to. He was the best decision I have ever made in my life, hands down. That said, I like to hope that love can be more powerful than belief.
The first week home he is already covering someone elses cases I struggle with where to draw the line Again we have never had coverage when we needed it. But those days may be gone. For girls, being the right age for marriage usually means graduating high school, if not later. You are not a worthy RM priesthood holder.