I have been a doctor's wife for almost 2 years - and we have been together for about 7 years, since right before intern year. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. Its the days when I don't get a text that I worry I feel terrible now for ever doubting him. Love is what we do, not what we feel.
She's such a martyr and a great person for doing this. Life is a journey and going through it with a true partner, and a mutual respect for curiosity, is so far greatly rewarding. He also hints a lot to settling down with me. This makes me so sad. I have been dating a great guy for about a year now, and we started dating shortly after my parents died of cancer. We Finally spent a week alone together for our anniversary and it was glorious.
I have finally realized that the church is fake and I'm so grateful that I got a second chance with this guy. It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. Sexually, risque and the such is essentially the same as baptists and fundamental Christians. No beliefs are protected from challenge, the rules of evidence, or derision. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. I let her know I'd been reading on LDS. Her experience may or may not be typical, but it is something to consider. I wish there was a mother's support network for us all to join and meet up.
But honestly, after putting so much time and money into something, not doing their absolute best and putting time and effort into it just isn't something people are apt to do even if they do like you If you can't be cool with getting what you can get now, I would consider there are plenty of things that might not change setting them loose. If you aren't sealed together, say good-bye for eternity. She encourages me to develop my skills and talents, and provides an example in several of those areas.