Honestly a lovely man but the sheer focus of time and attention has meant there is little if any left for me, I'm lucky if I get 5 minutes in comparison with some nights of 2 hours going on and on and on about work. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. It's scary to feel like you might never measure up to someone's expectations you love.
Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. Only the racist comments about why it was enacted have been disavowed. But, I am a 3rd year medical student and my fiance is a 2nd year medical student. There are other ways. But it was frightening Toughen up if you're the doctors girl. I would love to someday find myself sitting in the pew with you, sharing this amazing journey. Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. I am so happy to not be working in the medical field any more. All that being said, no one can tell you what is right for you except Heavenly Father.
I would say though that racial differences are NOT like religious differences, certainly not those between Mo and Nomo. Have you seen southpark episode on Mormons. I am a something male. Pickings are slim at church. I'm glad a couple of you doctor wives replied back. We are both extremely busy, and maybe that's why we work, but we try to make the time for our relationship.
Hopefully, it will give a little insight into Mormonism's insidiousness. Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel. I had many extremely hurtful things said to me, along with an intervention hosted by my married-in-the-temple-and-divorced grandmother. But there are a lot of women who post here who have flipped from TBM to apostate. It MAY be true that she will be miserable with him and make him miserable with her.