My husband has the benefit of having his cake and eating it too. This is something that's very important to her, and it's difficult to be married to someone who doesn't share the same values. Her experience may or may not be typical, but it is something to consider. Keep in touch, keep it light and understand he is under a lot of pressure right now. I clearly stated twice that I severed things with the girl. But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe.
I can honestly relate to all the stories i read from your blog. Sometimes you might even get jealous of the patients since they seem to get to even see your 'doctor' more than you do. The extent of other physical activity depends on what you both want from the relationship, though in general the Mormon Church frowns on sexual contact even beyond intercourse. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this.
In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. And there are questions and lessons that dual-faith couples face that zero-faith or single-faith households do not. His father died and he was not given one day off. Mormon theology is peculiar, yes, but the media frequently takes things out of context and misrepresents the religion.
The religion rather, and more importantly, the church itself is integral to most mormons' identity. Sorry, you can't reply to this topic. I love talking religion with him and I have never pressured him to change his habits or anything else about him. They even refrain from tea and coffee. A forum for ex-mormons and others who have been affected by mormonism to share news, commentary, and comedy about the Mormon church. This is crunch time and years worth of effort are on the line for him.