If she can see that YOU are what is important in the relationship, not what you or she believes, ya'll have a chance. Their values and the values of popular western culture are wildly disparate, which can be tough for them to navigate early in life. I think the most important thing is to bring up the issues as questions rather than points as why she's wrong. I'm sure their motives and good intentions are good - shame some female patience cause us the Doctors wives to have anxieties. I am married to an ER doc. My experience with non members has been so much more meaningful and caring. Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. I have seen love prevail over beliefs. Because people who have problems with interfaith families must needs shortly become a thing of the past.
But, as soon as the marriage happened, the Mormon spouse goes full on Orthodox and expects the non Mormon to comply. The first vision is something she taught endlessly as a missionary - same with the Book of Mormon translation. These are also only the American statistics. I'm a first year medical student and met my boyfriend in college when he was in med school now in his residency. Know that you are playing a game aka dating mormon girls that has low odds of success. That grad student better be working that hard if he or she wants to make it. To the two wondering sistersвYou both appear to be with loving, incredibly supportive men. This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me.
But it is important to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about how you feel about it. We had a long distant relationship for 3 years. I've read through some stuff there and it all seems pretty tame so far. If you can only think of alcohol and coffee for a good time, you're very disappointed. It's a tricky business, but oh so worth it for the one you love. I wouldn't just give up, but be wary. This guy was orbiting so strongly that he changed his religion before they were even dating.
I knew going into this it would be difficult, so I've braced myself, but I'd be lying if I didn't say there's a lot of disappointment that comes along with the relationship. Now Knowing your husband is surrounded by good looking women, makes you pray for them even harder. By all means, I encourage you to try having those discussions and to make a mental note of when you would choose to walk away instead. One small thing to add here. We are trying to conceive now, and I am contemplating if this was the right path for me. The church didn't do it to her but it helped create the environment that allowed it to happen.