December 18, Please tell me you're not in NC, dagny. I met my wife at the age of She literally showed up at my apartment one night, wholly unexpected. That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed.
No easy answers here. He actually wanted them to be active in a religion and thought this was a good idea. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first.
Want to add to the discussion. I have had to compromise more often than I would have liked. He'll pitch in when he can, but that isn't too often. If you don't mind some slightly off-topic advice, I can assure you that you will meet plenty of other beautiful, interesting women going forward. No one appreciates how demanding it is unless they have lived it, many friends over the years said to me "lucky you, you are married to a Doctor. Why would you behave any different now. You got some good advice from the other posters on how to maintain contact. Many men have begun leaving the Church in their early twenties as the mission has become more important. We often wonder how we will pay our bills sometimes. She will likely want you to convert to fix the family.
I know residency is particularly bad, but what about when he finishes that. It's like a catch or something. Disney gives them the fantasy where they can easily achieve a standard of perfection with low risk. If she says that the mission was the greatest experience and best two years of her life, any chance you have at a normal long-term healthy relationship is dim unless you convert. Order flowers and arrange to have a friend or family member in the area place the flowers for them there. This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me. You all are strong for staying but I just don't see how it is possible long term to live like this.