I have already been told I will "lose" to medicine if I put pressure on him. Drinkers tend to rely on drink before they can have fun. In truth if I had a chance to "do it all again" type of thing. Juggle them with a working wife, a housewife with children and things become difficult. I do think this girl is a keeper, and I'm more than willing to tolerate, be patient and live with the crazy schedule. Moved into his house and it is hard to fit in. He also has sacrificed a more easy lifestyle.
What if love is looking someone in the eye and saying, "You're making the biggest mistake of your life. If you do attend parties like that, expect her to drink 7-Up and volunteer as the designated driver, and to be completely repulsed if you drink too much. If you are only after non-serious dates and spend a great time, you should be fine with this set up. What's hard for us, is he doesn't understand why I gladly accept extra hours and work and community service projects, which sometimes impinge on the little time we do have to spend together. For every lesson and sermon preached about loving everyone, there are one or two lessons on avoiding outsiders because they will destroy your eternity. I am someone who loves quality time a lot. I thought about those deeply spiritual moments I had had in life and how special they were to me. But when my oldest daughter hit 12, the lessons started to have one major theme: This is what girls are told should be their primary goal. You can even spice it up with a little "desperate housewives lifestyle".
He actually wanted them to be active in a religion and thought this was a good idea. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. We play doctor - then she leaves. You just need to figure out where your girlfriend is. Mormonism has a lay clergy, so everyone serves in the Church. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you.
I do not see this going well. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone. I don't think we are going to end up being friends but I'll get over that. Maybe we'll break up in a month. Then on one of his lighter weeks when we get some quality time together and text more I reinvest myself and the resentment disappears because I think things are progressing into a real relationship That's also great advice about how to talk to him. I'll keep digging through it, but there's a lot there and I'd like some suggestions to narrow my search.