If your relationship is moving forward, or she suggests doing something more expensive, it is not inappropriate for her to help pay as well. But that parent-child relationship was bound to change anyways as you become an adult. I understand in some measure of the pressure on the provider, but this profession was their choice. There are plenty of marriages between Mormons and non-Mormons. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints teaches that all sexual relationships outside of marriage defined as the legal union between a man and a woman are sinful. And they manage to get the time for it. He loves me and would do anything to make me happy. Hiring someone to read for research does not work for a variety of reasons.
From reading the above posts from previous posters, please keep in mind that while it helps to read and learn from each others' experiences as we are all in the same boat -- we must also make the distinction between someone's occupation and their personality or character. If you like her, and I'm assuming you do, I would suggest you continue the relationship and see how things pan out. I have to say that I am a lucky woman. Pickings are slim at church. You insult my husband who is as faithful as they come and does everything he can to spend time with us and to help out. Propagandists in the media throw around the word patriarchy as if it is synonymous with anything male.
Yeah man, don't doubt someone who was a missionary will try to convert you. I had told him that if he hadn't changed jobs, that I wouldn't have left him but that our relationship would probably become irreparable. Dude just to summarize what I think is the majority of the comments. Don't do it girls, forget the "status" it doesn't mean jack. When I was 19, my boyfriend considered himself an atheist. Much better to marry in the faith if possible. I married outside the church and have no regrets. Modest dressing is the best policy here.
I understand that he us trying to study but I'm doing everything in my power to. I used to be religious when I was a kid. Reading all your comments makes me feel sometimes uplifted, other times scared as hell. After moving in with him it has become painfully obvious I have a lot of personal improvements to make to meet his minimum expectations as a wife and mother. He should tell her that he will never convert, and that if she will not be happy unless he does, the relationship should end. I am not going to blame him for not putting effort into it, because he probably put as much effort into it as he could.