I guess if u believe an angel with a sword really did force Joseph Smith to marry those girls. I'm sorry this was so longwinded and not really an answer to your questions. Keep the relationship casual. He is a great man and I know he will always put his family first but this is such a hard decision.
I met this girl a while ago and we really hit it off. Posts from people who have your same problem occur on a regular basis here on RFM. And no I would not pressure them to convert but as a Latter-day Saint I would pray for them to convert as I do for many people I know and love. It has hit me that this relationship is a double standard wherein since we are not married yet, he is not obligated to help me, yet he says once I'm done with my boards and match into residency, we will get married. Cuddling is not demanding. I have never been your typical domestically skilled stay at home mom. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone. Or does this sound more like a conscious choice he's making not to get invested in this. I get to spend my life with someone who was not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender roles. I think Bob, the answer can be found in your comment.
Why Mormons are not racist. She might not even be living according to the moral standards of the Church. Now that my boyfriend and I are beginning to talk about a future together, though, I realize that I need to consider this question of marrying outside of the church very carefully. Let's talk about kids. Yes, it is bad. I am engaged to marry a surgeon next fall.
I was convinced that if I didn't move to be with him we would never have a shot at a real relationship because his training would take so long - residency. However, my situation is very different. She might not be keeping the Word of Wisdom, living according to the Law of Chastity, or attending church regularly. She didn't tell anyone because her own lack self worth and shame petrified her to do anything about it. It gets better towards the later part of the whole deal, but it's always going to be kind of crazy busy. I have been married to my doctor husband for 36 years. While my husband is not a doctor he does have a job that requires very odd hours a-typical of the American and works all holidays. You are expecting him to be like your exes and you want him to be the one to chase you.