It MAY be true that she will be miserable with him and make him miserable with her. I'm firmly in the RUN camp. Though my mother never openly complained about this, I could see it in her eyes. Trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone at home or attempting to date someone you meet while on mission are both distractions. How could I help a non-Mormon spouse to feel like a member of my ward family when he is not a member of my church. I do not contact my gf every day unless they are online. I moved out of sate to be with him.
Aw, glad I can help. I had a busy career and tried continues that until my son was 3 years old and I realized that he saw us a few minutes during his awaken hours…. During those years, I think we had about 5 dinner dates.
No sex before marriage. She hasn't submitted the paperwork yet but I have no doubt that she will do this eventually. The 3rd time, I was a crying mess, which he has never seen me do so he knew he had royally blown it. Thanks again for the continued comments and replies to my edit. I don't think we could have a real conversation about those points either. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. Additionally we have no family nearby for me to rely on for help or just to combat loneliness.
You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. I get that a lot to people saying 'be happy you married a doctor' 'u will have a glamorous wonderful life' they would not get it unless they be one-that is being a docs wife, the loneliness is the worst especially when your newly wedded and 2nd month of ur marriage he has to go for his night calls in dec, which includes our first christmas: I thought I was the only one who barely gets communication throughout the day, not married but am dating a surgeon and have for 6 years. Can he see the good in it, or does he focus on the more controversial aspects. There's a reason so many Utahns are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. Can they keep a job and or clean up after themselves.