I want to serve a mission in my old age with my husband. We started dating 16 years ago, and both resigned from the church earlier this year. My husband's extramarital relationships were well-known in the hospital where he practiced. I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut. If we have children, they will be OK to go to your church, but not compelled to do so, and never baptized. I think there's a chance you two can find a way to agree on a lifestyle and values. I am particularly tied to an area because of family and friends and he was set on selecting a list that was best suited for his career, not me. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first.
The point to this story is that when he had any free time he wanted to spend it with me. Understand that it's their belief, and make plans for any of the other 6 days instead. I'm telling you the spouse who stays pays a terrible price. Well the pieces will all fall into place. You're walking into a den of crazy, tbm bishop's daughter, I hate to say it but you should really be contemplative about what you're stepping into. Some Mormons believe the Telestial Kingdom will be littered with spouses who refused to get baptized. Not being an RM, they weren't really interested in me.
I'd rather marry a rich doctor and let him have his affair s on the side just so long as I don't have to work anymore. Thanks for pointing this stuff out. Your probably thinking of a sect of the Mormons, I'm sure there is one like that.
In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. Marry a person based on his character, not his religion. Am I ready for this. She, her family, and her friends all believe that she can't get into the Celestial Kingdom VIP Heaven unless she is "sealed" to a Mormon husband. There have been times in the last three years that we have had to live paycheck to paycheck so the idea of a rich doctor is antiquated in most cases. I was just told that today when I told a friend how lonely it gets being married to a doctor and how I miss having my bestfriend around. You are brave and good people and seem to be raising wonderful children who will be lights for everyone with whom they come in contact. Hopefully she could realize if she was born into one of these cults that also distrust apostates she probably wouldn't see through them either.