By that I mean that we ought to consider simply marrying within the faith and in the temple for all the reasons that people have given. Toxic is the right word. I alway understood and supported him so it was my way of being useful in the world, too. A forum for ex-mormons and others who have been affected by mormonism to share news, commentary, and comedy about the Mormon church. Better than freezing up and avoiding them altogether. But equally, does this mean you will have to sanction what you do, say and watch regarding Mormonism. It MAY be true that she will be miserable with him and make him miserable with her. He will come to you.
Your girlfriend might, or maybe IS, going through this. Reconciling this with the doctrine of temple marriage is trickier. No one, except someone who has been Mormon can understand how deep the hooks are sunk into the Mormon psyche. Everything we do when we are together seems to be pre-planned and must be executed just so, right down to unexpectedly turning off the lights at And I can relate to the walking on eggshells feeling when they are home. In many ways, she was everything that I ever wanted in a spouse, but in other ways she was not what I ever expected. The important thing is that you are getting to know one another, not that you are always doing fancy things.
If i want to go for a walk, he has to prepare for it. I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut. Said he wanted those extra few minutes in the morning, but prefaced it by saying he knew it was selfish of him. Trust me, I too tried to make it work with my very Mormon also returned missionary ex-girlfriend. It broke my shelf, we left as an entire family, and our marriage is better than ever.
I have many friends and members of my family who married within the church and later divorced. You got some good advice from the other posters on how to maintain contact. Also, we haven't practiced polygamy for over years. The church essays that address that linked at www. She didn't tell anyone because her own lack self worth and shame petrified her to do anything about it. In her obviously orthodox Mormon paradigm dad's a bishop, she went to BYU and on a missionunderstand that she believes her husband must be an orthodox Mormon and get married to her in the temple. Medicine is not an easy lifestyle for anyone, and sometimes the only thing that gets me through is knowing that at the end of the day or twoI get to come home to my loving husband.